3 Ways to Change a Negative Mindset

If want you learn how to change a negative mindset, I can definitely help you with that. Not because I’m great at being positive all the time, but because I used to be a “negative mindset expert” also known as constantly negative and bumming everyone out around me!

Before I even realized I was living with depression, I would look at a situation and think of the worst possible option. My nature was to be judgmental, opinionated, and extremely critical. Now I didn’t always let others know what I was thinking, but even if I didn’t speak these things out loud, they definitely showed themselves through my attitude, my short temper and my daily interactions with others.

So how does someone with a constant bad attitude, which was more like living a negative lifestyle, turn those thoughts around and make them point in the right direction? 

As a life coach, the following suggestions are my top 3 ways to change my client’s negative mindset. Before I go into any more detail though you need to hear this. It is a process. This is not something that will change overnight. You will need to be diligent and consistent. This is the beginning of a journey towards a more balanced mindset and a more peaceful YOU.

Practice Gratitude

Can I be honest and tell you this is my least favorite way to change my attitude? When I’m in a “mood” the very last thing I want to do is be grateful. I’d rather complain about everything instead.

Being thankful, before you feel like being thankful, causes a shift in your mindset. It automatically takes you from focusing inward to focusing on the truth that is all around you.

Ideas for practicing gratitude:

Write a thank you note.
Tell your family why you love them.
Write down one item you’re thankful for every day.

Do for Others

This one is fantastic. Not only are you not focusing on yourself and your own troubles, you’re purposefully doing something helpful or kind for someone else. It is impossible to be negative and be kind to someone else all at the same time.

Ideas for doing for others:

Bring your friend or co-worker their favorite coffee.
Text your spouse a love note.
Bring home your children’s favorite dessert.

Read, Read, Read!

There are so many different ways to read these days. Blogs, online articles, ebooks, and real live books are available all around us. Even for those people who say they aren’t readers, this is such a simple strategy for taking that negative mindset and turning it into a positive attitude.

Ideas for reading:

Daily devotional
The Bible – particularly the Psalms
Blogs or online articles
Books on parenting, marriage, faith, and self-discovery

These suggestions may seem almost too simple, but practiced every day, compound on each other and make a huge impact in your attitude and your life.

Do you have a need to change your negative mindset? What strategies do you use to focus on having a positive attitude?




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Follow These Steps to Change Your Mindset


What is a mindset? Dictionary.com describes mindset as “a fixed mental attitude or disposition that predetermines a person’s responses to and interpretations of situations”. Whew, that’s a lot of words, but it so accurately explains the idea of a mindset. Basically, it’s a pre-determined attitude or opinion I have of something, which is NOT easily changed.

Why do we need to change our mindset? There are many reasons why. Many of us have grown up with attitudes, opinions, and habits that are unhealthy and downright harmful to our lives. A negative mindset can be dangerous to our relationships, especially those with our spouses or children.

There are many different ways to change your mindset, but today I’m going to share 3 ways that have helped me personally.

Practice Gratitude

pinterest-ad-1I spoke about practicing gratitude in my Facebook Live this week. Being thankful automatically turns your focus from negative to positive. You can’t help but be reminded of all the good things happening in your life when you’re listing all the things you’re grateful for.

Action Step: Make a Top 10 list of what you’re thankful for. To help make more of an impact on your attitude, choose 1 topic and list 10 things you’re thankful for. For instance, let’s say you’re struggling at your job. List 10 items you’re grateful for about your place of work.

Do for Others

Doing something for others will turn your focus completely around. It will keep you from focusing on the challenging season of your current life situation. This is also something that will be difficult to practice. Who feels like helping someone else when they’re life is out of control? Trust me though, it works wonders.

Action Step: Find someone in your community – a friend at church, a fellow parent at your child’s school or a co-worker that could use some encouragement. Take them out for coffee or dinner. Write a note complimenting them on a job well done or thanking them for how they’ve influenced your life. Come up with an idea of your own. Be creative and help someone else.

Read, Read, Read!!!!

This has been a game-changer for me when it comes to changing my mindset. For me, reading the Bible is huge! This is the only way I can truly change my mindset from focusing on all the negative in my life to allowing God to use my life for His purpose. There are also many books I’ve read that have encouraged and inspired me in different areas of my life – marriage, friendships, business, parenting, Christian life, and so on. My husband, who was a minister for 20 years, has read a number of books in order to grow spiritually and learn how to help others.

Action Step: Choose a book to read that will positively influence your life. Challenge yourself to read one chapter a day until you’ve completed it. If you’re a Jesus-follower, read your Bible daily. Make it easier for yourself by reading a devotional book or following a Bible reading plan.

What strategies do you use to change your mindset?







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