5 Common Lies Women Tell Themselves – I’m Not Good Enough

Over the next 5 weeks we’ll be tackling some of the most common lies we tell ourselves, and how we can conquer them once and for all. Let’s start this week with one of the most common self-deceptions out there >>>

Week #1 – I’m Not Good Enough.

As women, we tell ourselves this one a lot. And it can be about any area of our lives – as a mom or wife, a daughter or sister, with our jobs, in our homes, or within our communities. Why do we do this to ourselves? Because it’s a lie we’ve been believing for way too long.

A lie is something that is not based on the truth. Lies also use guilt and condemnation in order to make you believe something that is not true. Recognizing this is the first crucial step in combating the false truths we hold onto daily.

The best way to conquer any lie is to recognize it for what it is – full of condemnation and false truths.

How do you do this? One of the best ways I’ve found is to write out each truth to combat each lie. Yes, actively write out the truth to each lie.

Take a piece of paper or your journal. On the left side write out each lie, or for this example, write out all the areas of your life you believe you are not good enough. On the right side write out the truth to each one of those areas.

For example, instead of “I’m not good enough as a mother”, write down, “I am doing my best as a mother. The most important thing is that I love my children.”

Instead of “I’m not good enough at work”, write down, “I may have messed up that order at work, but it’s OK. No one is mad at me, and my boss understands that mistakes happen.”

Instead of “I’m not good enough at home”, write down, “Does it really matter if my house is a mess? No! The only person that’s bothered by it is me.”

What area of your life do you feel “not good enough”? Take a few moments today to begin the journey towards conquering this lie once and for all.

 

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Why You Are a New Creation (even if you don’t believe it)

 

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Have you ever asked yourself, “Who Am I”?

Years ago, when I was at my darkest moments with my battle against depression, I was asking that question all the time.

I felt like I had lost myself. I didn’t recognize who I was. During that time of my life I was angry, full of self-condemnation, snapping at my family, and sometimes being downright mean to my kids. I don’t say this lightly when I say I hated myself.

Then God . . .

Through counseling and God’s grace I learned that I am a new creation. I am NOT a toy the enemy of my soul can play with. I have control over my thoughts, which means I have control over WHAT I allow into my head and WHO I allow into my life.

The truth was (and still is) that I’m a new creation the moment I surrendered my life to Jesus.

You see, because I allowed negative thoughts and false beliefs to flood my mind, I was full of anger, guilt, and self-doubt. I believed that God could not reach me where I was, and this was even AFTER I had decided to give my life to Jesus.

The enemy wanted nothing more than for me to remain stuck in this mindset. And you’re fooling yourselves if you don’t believe he wants the same thing for you too.

If we believe that Jesus cannot or does not completely change us once we become His, then we are still living under the law, not grace. The enemy of our souls would love nothing less than for us to believe that Jesus is not powerful enough to miraculously change our lives.

Does this mean that all of our bad habits and attitudes are instantly gone? No, not at all. What it does mean is that God has made our souls new. He has provided us with everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, we need to grow in Him and become more like Him every day.

We need to remember, because of what Jesus did on the cross over 2000 years ago, we are NEW CREATIONS!

Your homework for this week:

Read 2 Corinthians 5: 17-18. How has God given you the gift of a being a new creation?

 


 

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