5 Common Lies Women Tell Themselves – I Will Never Be Happy

5 Common Lies Women Tell Themselves - I Will Never Be Happy


I have to be honest, this lie is a tough one to fight. Especially if you’re struggling with depression or anxiety because often you feel you will never be happy again.

The Difference Between Happiness & Joy

I remember when I first went to counseling, learning the difference between happiness and joy.

Happiness is a feeling. We feel happy when we eat our favorite dessert (or at least I do). We feel happy when we’re on vacation, when our children are not fighting with us or each other, or when they sleep through the night. Happiness is based on how we are feeling “in the moment”.

Joy is a belief. It is a lifestyle and is not dependant on our outward circumstances.

What is Joy?

Kay Warren describes Joy in her book “Choosing Joy: Because Happiness Isn’t Enough,” as the “settled assurance that God is in control of all the details of my life, the quiet confidence that ultimately everything is going to be alright, and the determined choice to praise God in every situation.”

Joy is knowing, no matter what happens, that you will be OK. Through illness, family discord, loss of employment, or unexpected chaos, your life is in the hands of a Father who loves you.

Rather than focusing on how you will “never be happy”, focus on what gives you true joy. Your children, your spouse, your relationship with God.

Turn Happiness into Joy

I would love for you to share with us, how you would change “I will never be happy” into “I can have joy because . . . .” Leave a comment below, it may just help someone else. 🙂


Join me over at Choosing JOY, a Facebook group for women to encourage each other and grow together through depression and anxiety. 

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5 Common Lies Women Tell Themselves - I Will Never Be Happy