5 Common Lies Women Tell Themselves – I Have No Control Over My Life

I don’t know one person who has never felt like this. And if you haven’t, there will come a time when you will. The key is knowing how to handle it when your life feels completely out of control.

The truth is, there will be times you are not in control of your life. People will make decisions that will affect your future. Illness will strike. Your job will be eliminated, or a new opportunity will make itself known. It’s during times like these you need to focus on what you have control over.

You have control over the decisions YOU make.

You have control over how you react to your situation.

You have control over what thoughts you allow into your mind, whether you fertilize those thoughts and let them grow, or whether you reject them before they turn into bitterness and resentment.

If you are feeling like this, here’s what I suggest. Take a piece of paper. On the left side write down how you’re feeling. “I’m not in control!” or “I feel so out of control!” On the right side write down what you are in control of – your thoughts, your decisions, whatever it may be.

I’ll be discussing this topic in my Facebook group, Choosing JOY, this Tuesday at 11:00 am. Click the image to join the group so you can dig deeper into learning how to handle your life when it feels completely out of control.

5 Common Lies Women Tell Themselves - I Have No Control Over My Life

5 Common Lies Women Tell Themselves – I’m Not Good Enough

Over the next 5 weeks we’ll be tackling some of the most common lies we tell ourselves, and how we can conquer them once and for all. Let’s start this week with one of the most common self-deceptions out there >>>

Week #1 – I’m Not Good Enough.

As women, we tell ourselves this one a lot. And it can be about any area of our lives – as a mom or wife, a daughter or sister, with our jobs, in our homes, or within our communities. Why do we do this to ourselves? Because it’s a lie we’ve been believing for way too long.

A lie is something that is not based on the truth. Lies also use guilt and condemnation in order to make you believe something that is not true. Recognizing this is the first crucial step in combating the false truths we hold onto daily.

The best way to conquer any lie is to recognize it for what it is – full of condemnation and false truths.

How do you do this? One of the best ways I’ve found is to write out each truth to combat each lie. Yes, actively write out the truth to each lie.

Take a piece of paper or your journal. On the left side write out each lie, or for this example, write out all the areas of your life you believe you are not good enough. On the right side write out the truth to each one of those areas.

For example, instead of “I’m not good enough as a mother”, write down, “I am doing my best as a mother. The most important thing is that I love my children.”

Instead of “I’m not good enough at work”, write down, “I may have messed up that order at work, but it’s OK. No one is mad at me, and my boss understands that mistakes happen.”

Instead of “I’m not good enough at home”, write down, “Does it really matter if my house is a mess? No! The only person that’s bothered by it is me.”

What area of your life do you feel “not good enough”? Take a few moments today to begin the journey towards conquering this lie once and for all.


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