3 Strategies to Strengthen Your Relationships Through Depression

I am honored to be guest blogging for Katie Trudeau over at Cor Domum: Navigating Life & Parenting with Joy, where she writes about all things gentle parenting, real food, and natural living.

It was 2:00 am. I had just nursed my daughter for what seemed like the 10th time that night, and she would not go back to sleep. So naturally, I reacted with anger. I left her in the bedroom with my husband while I went downstairs to have a temper tantrum. Slamming cupboard doors, yanking dishes out of the sink, and throwing pillows across the living room.
This was my life for the first 8 months of my newborn daughter’s first year. I had waited 5 years to have my first child. We were ready and we were both excited. So when we brought her home I was expecting sweet baby cuddles, joy-filled moments, and a heart that was overwhelmed with love for my child.

Needless to say that did not happen.

The first year of her life was a cycle of anger, guilt, and self-condemnation. This continued for days, weeks and then months, until my husband finally suggested I go see the doctor. Once I did, changed everything. She totally understood what I was going through and placed me on a plan towards healing.

During this time, I realized I had been experiencing depression all my life. It was especially difficult after the birth of my first and third child. Through medication, counseling, and help from my family, I’ve been able to win the daily battle with depression and anxiety.

Now that others know more about our story, my husband and I have been asked often, “How do you support someone who is going through this life experience?”

My family has had A LOT of experience helping me through these times. There are many ways my family and friends have helped me, but there are 3 key strategies that my family has implemented that help me every single day.

You can read the rest of the article here >>> 3 Strategies to Strengthen Your Relationships Through Depression, over at Katie Trudeau’s blog, Cor Domum: Navigating Life & Parenting with Joy.




Join me for my newest course, 5 Keys to Winning the Daily Battle with Depression & Anxiety. This course is designed to help you create your own unique strategy for living a life of true peace and real joy.

Course launches April 1, 2017.

3 Ways to Change a Negative Mindset

If want you learn how to change a negative mindset, I can definitely help you with that. Not because I’m great at being positive all the time, but because I used to be a “negative mindset expert” also known as constantly negative and bumming everyone out around me!

Before I even realized I was living with depression, I would look at a situation and think of the worst possible option. My nature was to be judgmental, opinionated, and extremely critical. Now I didn’t always let others know what I was thinking, but even if I didn’t speak these things out loud, they definitely showed themselves through my attitude, my short temper and my daily interactions with others.

So how does someone with a constant bad attitude, which was more like living a negative lifestyle, turn those thoughts around and make them point in the right direction? 

As a life coach, the following suggestions are my top 3 ways to change my client’s negative mindset. Before I go into any more detail though you need to hear this. It is a process. This is not something that will change overnight. You will need to be diligent and consistent. This is the beginning of a journey towards a more balanced mindset and a more peaceful YOU.

Practice Gratitude

Can I be honest and tell you this is my least favorite way to change my attitude? When I’m in a “mood” the very last thing I want to do is be grateful. I’d rather complain about everything instead.

Being thankful, before you feel like being thankful, causes a shift in your mindset. It automatically takes you from focusing inward to focusing on the truth that is all around you.

Ideas for practicing gratitude:

Write a thank you note.
Tell your family why you love them.
Write down one item you’re thankful for every day.

Do for Others

This one is fantastic. Not only are you not focusing on yourself and your own troubles, you’re purposefully doing something helpful or kind for someone else. It is impossible to be negative and be kind to someone else all at the same time.

Ideas for doing for others:

Bring your friend or co-worker their favorite coffee.
Text your spouse a love note.
Bring home your children’s favorite dessert.

Read, Read, Read!

There are so many different ways to read these days. Blogs, online articles, ebooks, and real live books are available all around us. Even for those people who say they aren’t readers, this is such a simple strategy for taking that negative mindset and turning it into a positive attitude.

Ideas for reading:

Daily devotional
The Bible – particularly the Psalms
Blogs or online articles
Books on parenting, marriage, faith, and self-discovery

These suggestions may seem almost too simple, but practiced every day, compound on each other and make a huge impact in your attitude and your life.

Do you have a need to change your negative mindset? What strategies do you use to focus on having a positive attitude?




Join me for my newest course, 5 Keys to Winning the Daily Battle with Depression & Anxiety. This course is designed to help you create your own unique strategy for living a life of true peace and real joy.

Course launches April 1, 2017.

8 Scriptures to Share God’s Love for You

You are loved.

I truly believe all of us here know that God loves us. But I think it’s difficult to believe that we are loved by God.

Does that make sense? It’s so easy to say “God loves everyone”, but it’s not easy to say “I know I am loved by God”. There is a huge difference in those two statements.

I’d like to share some scripture with you that reinforces the truth that we are loved by God. Feel free to share other scriptures, in the comments below, regarding God’s love for us.

Psalm 86:15 ~ But you, O Lord, are a God of compassion and mercy, slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love and faithfulness.

1 John 3:1 ~ See how very much our Father loves us, for he calls us his children, and that is what we are!

Ephesians 2:4-5 ~ But God is so rich in mercy, and he loved us so much, that even though we were dead because of our sins, he gave us life when he raised Christ from the dead. (It is only by God’s grace that you have been saved!)

Romans 8:35-37 ~ Can anything ever separate us from Christ’s love? Does it mean he no longer loves us if we have trouble or calamity, or are persecuted, or hungry, or destitute, or in danger, or threatened with death? (As the Scriptures say, “For your sake we are killed every day; we are being slaughtered like sheep.” No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us.

Psalm 118:6 ~ The Lord is for me, so I will have no fear. What can mere people do to me?

Jeremiah 31:3 ~ Long ago the Lord said to Israel: “I have loved you, my people, with an everlasting love. With unfailing love I have drawn you to myself.

Psalm 103:8 ~ The Lord is compassionate and merciful, slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love.

Isaiah 41:13 ~ For I hold you by your right hand—I, the Lord your God. And I say to you, ‘Don’t be afraid. I am here to help you.






The Only Way to My Father is Through the Cross


Can you imagine having access to God 24/7? You can talk to Him, pray to Him, sing to Him, cry to Him anytime you want? This is exactly what Jesus made happen when He died on the Cross.

In the Old Testament, God directed Moses and the Jews to build Him a temple. It was quite an exquisite and intricate piece of architecture. You can read about it in the book of Exodus.

There was a room called the Most Holy Place. It was separated from the rest of the temple by a curtain. This curtain is described in the book of Exodus as “a special curtain of finely woven linen . . . with blue, purple, and scarlet thread and with skillfully embroidered cherubim.” This was no ordinary curtain. It was used to separate God from people because of sin. (Exodus 26:31)

No one but the High Priest was allowed to enter the Most Holy Place, and that was only after he had performed a series of rituals, which included offering animal sacrifices, cleansing his body, and wearing a specific set of clothes.

The High Priest entered the Most Holy Place in order to make the people holy and sinless in the sight of God. This is how people were cleansed from sin before Jesus arrived.

Jesus changed everything when He gave himself to die on the cross.

In Matthew 27, it’s recorded that when Jesus released his spirit . . . the curtain in the sanctuary of the Temple was torn in two, from top to bottom.” This is the same curtain that was used to separate God from His people, because His people were sinful and unrighteous, and could not be in the direct presence of God. (Matthew 27:40)

Do you realize what happened here? Jesus death not only saved us from eternal condemnation, but it gave us a direct path to God the Father. We no longer have to perform rituals of cleansing and animal sacrifices in order to be in the presence of God.

This truth speaks to my heart every time I think about it. Jesus has done so much more for us than simply save us from sin. His death has allowed us to have a relationship with God the Father.

Have you ever looked at Jesus death as more than just a means of forgiveness from sin? What does it mean for you to have a direct path to God?

(Content from this blog article was taken from my group Facebook study and 30 Day devotional, 30 Days to More of Jesus.)


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