How to Replace Self-Deception with Life-Long Truth in These 4 Steps

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Knowing how to distinguish the falsehoods we have believed about ourselves from the reality in our lives is HUGE when it comes to living with victory over depression.

Why is that?

When you are struggling daily with depression and anxiety, there are days you feel like you are going to lose your mind. Your mindset is completely skewed by the lack of control you have over your emotions and your mental health.

How do I know this? Because it’s what happened to me over 10 years ago.

When my first daughter was born, I experienced something I would not wish on my worst enemy. Post-partum depression. Like any illness, some are hit harder with symptoms than others. I had every single symptom in the book.

Irrational anger, high expectations for myself and my family, overwhelming guilt, feelings of hopelessness, thoughts of worthlessness, and believing that my family would be better off without me as a wife and mother.

So yes, when you are experiencing the above symptoms, you are deceiving yourself and believing all sorts of lies and untruths.

What do you do when you are unsure what is true and what is false in your life?

pinterest-ad-2Write down everything you are thinking about yourself or your situation.

Essentially this is called a “mental brain dump”. Get a sheet of paper, journal, whatever you can use, and write down the beliefs you have about yourself, or that you’ve heard others tell you. I suggest not spending more than 10-15 minutes on this.

Review your “mental brain dump” list.

Read through each statement you wrote down one by one. If you need someone objective to help you then, by all means, enlist their help.

Write the truth to each statement you wrote in step 1.

This area may take much longer than 10 – 15 minutes. If you have quite a long list, I suggest tackling 5 statements at a time. This process can take a while, but it is the most important part of the process. If you are going to live in victory over depression and anxiety, you need to KNOW and BELIEVE the truth about yourself.

Choose one Truth each day or week to focus on.

This may seem like some psychological mumbo-jumbo to you but trust me, it works. How do you change something over time? By creating a new habit. By reviewing each truth every day or every week, you are creating a new habit in your mind. The habit of finding the truth about yourself and your situation, no matter how painful and difficult it can be.

We will be tackling this exercise in my newest course, 5 Keys to Winning the Daily Battle with Depression & Anxiety. This is one method I use to replace the lies I have believed about myself with the truth of my current life situation.

5-keys-email-courseThis course will launch April 1 for the introductory price of only $147! (Regular price $197 returns May 1.) It includes a downloadable workbook, email support, video lessons, and a FREE 30-minute consultation with me at the completion of the course.

Interested in the course and want to keep updated on all the deets? Click here to learn more.

Have you ever used this method to fight the deception you have believed about yourself? How did it help you? Are there other methods you have used to bring the truth back into your life?

 

 

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Follow These Steps to Change Your Mindset

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What is a mindset? Dictionary.com describes mindset as “a fixed mental attitude or disposition that predetermines a person’s responses to and interpretations of situations”. Whew, that’s a lot of words, but it so accurately explains the idea of a mindset. Basically, it’s a pre-determined attitude or opinion I have of something, which is NOT easily changed.

Why do we need to change our mindset? There are many reasons why. Many of us have grown up with attitudes, opinions, and habits that are unhealthy and downright harmful to our lives. A negative mindset can be dangerous to our relationships, especially those with our spouses or children.

There are many different ways to change your mindset, but today I’m going to share 3 ways that have helped me personally.

Practice Gratitude

pinterest-ad-1I spoke about practicing gratitude in my Facebook Live this week. Being thankful automatically turns your focus from negative to positive. You can’t help but be reminded of all the good things happening in your life when you’re listing all the things you’re grateful for.

Action Step: Make a Top 10 list of what you’re thankful for. To help make more of an impact on your attitude, choose 1 topic and list 10 things you’re thankful for. For instance, let’s say you’re struggling at your job. List 10 items you’re grateful for about your place of work.

Do for Others

Doing something for others will turn your focus completely around. It will keep you from focusing on the challenging season of your current life situation. This is also something that will be difficult to practice. Who feels like helping someone else when they’re life is out of control? Trust me though, it works wonders.

Action Step: Find someone in your community – a friend at church, a fellow parent at your child’s school or a co-worker that could use some encouragement. Take them out for coffee or dinner. Write a note complimenting them on a job well done or thanking them for how they’ve influenced your life. Come up with an idea of your own. Be creative and help someone else.

Read, Read, Read!!!!

This has been a game-changer for me when it comes to changing my mindset. For me, reading the Bible is huge! This is the only way I can truly change my mindset from focusing on all the negative in my life to allowing God to use my life for His purpose. There are also many books I’ve read that have encouraged and inspired me in different areas of my life – marriage, friendships, business, parenting, Christian life, and so on. My husband, who was a minister for 20 years, has read a number of books in order to grow spiritually and learn how to help others.

Action Step: Choose a book to read that will positively influence your life. Challenge yourself to read one chapter a day until you’ve completed it. If you’re a Jesus-follower, read your Bible daily. Make it easier for yourself by reading a devotional book or following a Bible reading plan.

What strategies do you use to change your mindset?

 

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To learn more about changing your mindset, join me for my newest online course, 5 Keys to Winning the Daily Battle with Depression & Anxiety. Pre-order now for the reduced price of $97 (regular price $147). This course will be available January 1.

 

 

 

 

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3 Biblical Truths to Defeat Depression

3 Biblical Truths to Defeat Depression

Learning who I truly was in Christ was a huge step towards my victory over depression. I talk with people often who don’t really grasp the fact that once they have surrendered their lives to Christ they ARE His children. This is especially true for those of us who live in that black cloud of depression. We are so driven by how we feel, that even if we know the truth in our minds, but don’t have it grounded in our hearts, we will not be able to live out our identity in Christ.

For me, this was a foundational truth that took a while to sink in. I had condemned myself for so long, that I was believing the lies the enemy was whispering in my ear.

“You’ll never be a good enough wife or mother.”

“You can’t control your anger, so why even try?”

“Can God really help you?”

“Why would He want to use you?”

Without knowing who I was in Christ, life did seem hopeless.

So what does it mean to find your identity in Christ? The following verses describe what this means. Let’s take a look:3 Biblical Truths to Defeat Depression

Therefore there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death. (Romans 8:1-2)

No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. (Romans 8:37)

Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come! (2 Corinthians 5:17)

You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. (Ephesians 4:21-24).

As I talk with others who struggle believing or accepting who they are as Jesus-followers, I stress to them that it is a process. Your identity is now found in Christ when you surrender your life, seek forgiveness and desire to follow Jesus. There is no condemnation. You are a new creation. You are more than a conqueror.

The process lies in being made new in the attitude of your minds.

It took me a while to understand all of this. And we all still have a lot of questions on how God truly makes us righteous and holy. This is where you have to trust God. Trust that His promises are true.

Knowing my identity in Christ, along with 2 other truths, have been the foundation for my victory over depression. I want to share these foundational truths with you in a free download I created.

This download can be taped to your bathroom mirror, clipped inside your Bible, added to your planner, posted above your desk at work, or anywhere else you need to be reminded of God’s plan for you to no longer live under the constant burden of depression.

3 Biblical Truths to Defeat Depression is available here. Download your free copy today.

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No matter how you feel, no matter what lies the enemy is whispering in your ear, no matter what you’ve done in the past, as a Jesus-follower you have the same identity that Christ has. There is no other power like the power of God. It is already available to you. It always has been.

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3 Ways to Pray When You Don’t Have the Strength

3 Ways to Pray When You Don't Have the Strength

Have you ever wanted to pray but simply don’t have the strength? Whether you have a major decision to make, an illness or death in your family, a life-altering event take place, or you’re simply tired and overwhelmed, it can be difficult to pray.

We have some major decisions to make for our family’s future over the next few months. This can be seriously overwhelming for me. Someone with my personality – aka “needs to have every detail of my life planned out” – either freaks out or freezes during times like this. Neither of these reactions is helpful.

Lately, I find myself unable to pray. Either I don’t know what to pray (freeze) or I’m full of widely varied emotions (freaking out).

Either way praying for me is difficult right now.

Although I’m not communicating with God through traditional prayer, I’ve discovered 3 other ways I’ve been communing with Him.

3 Ways to Pray When You Don't Have the StrengthWorship Songs

I love to worship through singing. One of my favorite parts of attending church is worshipping together as a church family. Worshipping through song allows me to express myself to God in a very personal way, especially when I don’t know what to say.

Complete Honesty with God

When I feel like I can’t pray, I tell God. Being honest with God is the best thing I can do, anytime, not just during times of turmoil. He already knows how I’m feeling, I may as well tell Him. Besides, it is completely cathartic for me to “verbally vomit” to Him. He’s got big shoulders. He can take it.  

Prayers of Others

The support and encouragement our family has received through this time have been unbelievably amazing. When friends and family express their love and concern and tell us they’re praying for us, I know they are. I lean on their petitions on our behalf.

The next time you find yourself unable to pray, try listening to some worship music, telling God exactly how you’re feeling (remember He can take anything you throw at Him), and lean on your friends and family.

Do you have any other suggestions for times when prayer is difficult? Please share in the comments below.

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