5 Common Lies Women Tell Themselves – I Have No Control Over My Life

I don’t know one person who has never felt like this. And if you haven’t, there will come a time when you will. The key is knowing how to handle it when your life feels completely out of control.

The truth is, there will be times you are not in control of your life. People will make decisions that will affect your future. Illness will strike. Your job will be eliminated, or a new opportunity will make itself known. It’s during times like these you need to focus on what you have control over.

You have control over the decisions YOU make.

You have control over how you react to your situation.

You have control over what thoughts you allow into your mind, whether you fertilize those thoughts and let them grow, or whether you reject them before they turn into bitterness and resentment.

If you are feeling like this, here’s what I suggest. Take a piece of paper. On the left side write down how you’re feeling. “I’m not in control!” or “I feel so out of control!” On the right side write down what you are in control of – your thoughts, your decisions, whatever it may be.

I’ll be discussing this topic in my Facebook group, Choosing JOY, this Tuesday at 11:00 am. Click the image to join the group so you can dig deeper into learning how to handle your life when it feels completely out of control.

5 Common Lies Women Tell Themselves - I Have No Control Over My Life

5 Common Lies Women Tell Themselves – No One Understands Me

5 Common Lies Women Tell Themselves - No One Understands Me

 

No one understands me.

What a great lie we tell ourselves often. The intention of this lie is to make you feel entirely alone. When you feel alone, you are in a very vulnerable place. Let’s get you out of that vulnerable place into a safe, encouraging space where you will always have hope.

When you say or think that no one understands you, ask yourself if this statement is true. Is there really no one on this whole planet who understands what you are going through? The answer is NO. There is always someone who has either experienced the same situation you’re going through or at least, has experienced the same feelings and emotions.

And remember, even when it seems like no one understands, there is always One who does. He suffered many, many things. Rejection, persecution, abandonment, betrayal. He was innocent yet suffered at the hands of those who hated Him. He knew what it was like to feel depression, anxiety, and fear. Jesus was 100% human and also 100% God. He did, and still does today, completely understand your feelings and emotions, and can show you the truth that you are NEVER alone.

So how do you combat this lie? Find someone who can understand your situation. There’s always someone who can help. Ask them if you can talk with them. Pick their brain and find out how they have handled this situation. Preferably find someone who has used their circumstance to uplift and encourage their own lives and the lives of others.

Instead of telling yourself “No one understands me” find someone you can talk to, who understands your situation. Better yet, lean on and trust in a God who is LOVE, TRUTH and has the POWER you need to know you will never be alone.

What’s one step today you can take to know and believe that you are not alone?

 

 

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5 Common Lies Women Tell Themselves - No One Understands Me

 

5 Common Lies Women Tell Themselves – I Will Never Be Happy

5 Common Lies Women Tell Themselves - I Will Never Be Happy

 

I have to be honest, this lie is a tough one to fight. Especially if you’re struggling with depression or anxiety because often you feel you will never be happy again.

The Difference Between Happiness & Joy

I remember when I first went to counseling, learning the difference between happiness and joy.

Happiness is a feeling. We feel happy when we eat our favorite dessert (or at least I do). We feel happy when we’re on vacation, when our children are not fighting with us or each other, or when they sleep through the night. Happiness is based on how we are feeling “in the moment”.

Joy is a belief. It is a lifestyle and is not dependant on our outward circumstances.

What is Joy?

Kay Warren describes Joy in her book “Choosing Joy: Because Happiness Isn’t Enough,” as the “settled assurance that God is in control of all the details of my life, the quiet confidence that ultimately everything is going to be alright, and the determined choice to praise God in every situation.”

Joy is knowing, no matter what happens, that you will be OK. Through illness, family discord, loss of employment, or unexpected chaos, your life is in the hands of a Father who loves you.

Rather than focusing on how you will “never be happy”, focus on what gives you true joy. Your children, your spouse, your relationship with God.

Turn Happiness into Joy

I would love for you to share with us, how you would change “I will never be happy” into “I can have joy because . . . .” Leave a comment below, it may just help someone else. 🙂

 

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5 Common Lies Women Tell Themselves - I Will Never Be Happy

 

 

5 Common Lies Women Tell Themselves – I’m Not Good Enough

Over the next 5 weeks we’ll be tackling some of the most common lies we tell ourselves, and how we can conquer them once and for all. Let’s start this week with one of the most common self-deceptions out there >>>

Week #1 – I’m Not Good Enough.

As women, we tell ourselves this one a lot. And it can be about any area of our lives – as a mom or wife, a daughter or sister, with our jobs, in our homes, or within our communities. Why do we do this to ourselves? Because it’s a lie we’ve been believing for way too long.

A lie is something that is not based on the truth. Lies also use guilt and condemnation in order to make you believe something that is not true. Recognizing this is the first crucial step in combating the false truths we hold onto daily.

The best way to conquer any lie is to recognize it for what it is – full of condemnation and false truths.

How do you do this? One of the best ways I’ve found is to write out each truth to combat each lie. Yes, actively write out the truth to each lie.

Take a piece of paper or your journal. On the left side write out each lie, or for this example, write out all the areas of your life you believe you are not good enough. On the right side write out the truth to each one of those areas.

For example, instead of “I’m not good enough as a mother”, write down, “I am doing my best as a mother. The most important thing is that I love my children.”

Instead of “I’m not good enough at work”, write down, “I may have messed up that order at work, but it’s OK. No one is mad at me, and my boss understands that mistakes happen.”

Instead of “I’m not good enough at home”, write down, “Does it really matter if my house is a mess? No! The only person that’s bothered by it is me.”

What area of your life do you feel “not good enough”? Take a few moments today to begin the journey towards conquering this lie once and for all.

 

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