From Burdens to Blessings

blog-title-template-1Children . . . (Sigh) . . . that word can either make you sigh with joy or sigh with desperation. I love my children, and I would never trade them for anything. I am sure, as any mother would tell you, sometimes they just drive you crazy! Chad will often look at me and say, “Is Connor 18 yet?” We both chuckle because we know when that day comes we will both be very sad to see our children all grown up.

When my children were younger, I would feel so guilty for the way I treated them. I have yelled, talked down to, set aside, spoken harshly to, and treated my kids as “less than”. I have made my kids feel like they are not important to me. Guilt over my lack of loving kindness towards my children is one of those things that I have wrestled with A LOT and still do.

I say that my kids have not always been a blessing to me, because there was a time they didn’t feel like a blessing. They felt like a burden, a HUGE one, that I “had” to take care of. There was a time I would become so irritated with them. The girl’s whining, complaining, and constant fighting and arguing. Connor’s meltdowns, tantrums, or the fact that he would not sleep through the night. Read More

Daily Routines for Your ADHD Family

Daily Routines for your ADHD FamilyLast week I talked about how to create a back to school routine for your family.

Now this just doesn’t apply to your kids. This applies to you as well.

My husband has told me time and time again that I do my best work, have the best attitude, and become overwhelmed a lot less often when I make a routine for myself and stick to it.

I’m very good at creating routines and schedules. Oh I could spend all day crafting charts, finding cute images to correlate with each task, and displaying them so neatly on my refrigerator. My problem comes with the follow-through. My personality despises doing anything wrong or pretty much “not perfect” in my eyes. I freeze when I can’t or don’t know how to start something just the right way.  Read More

4 Steps to Creating a Back to School Routine

It’s that time of year again. School supplies, new clothes, new backpacks, sports tryouts, after-school clubs, and everything else that comes with the beginning of a new school year. It’s also an opportunity to begin a brand new routine that will help your family have a well-prepared and chaotic free (as much as possible) school year.

Routines and schedules are just one tool that can help make this happen. The following steps are what we use in our home to help make the days as stress-free as we can.

Back to School Routine

Step #1 – Divide the day into 2 categories: Morning & Evening

Step #2 – Make a list of everything that needs to get done during a school day, from the moment the children wake up, until they go to bed. Place each task under one category. Some tasks may have more than 1 category, for example ‘brush teeth’ may fall under both morning and evening.

Our list looks like this:  Read More

Caring & Practical Support for You & Your Family

Caring and practical support for you and your familyI sent a newsletter to my subscribers the other day, letting them know I would like to offer more helpful resources and products for you and your family. I can’t do any of this unless I know what YOU are looking for and what would be most helpful for YOUR FAMILY.

Do you use printables to help organize your family?

Would you like to read e-books or watch videos that explain how to keep the peace and prevent (as much as possible) chaos in your home?

What issues and topics deeply affect you and your family?

Basically, how can I help you manage your home, take care of yourself, raise your children, support your marriage, and encourage you in the life-journey God has blessed you with?

For this reason I’ve set up a simple and quick 10 question survey so I can learn more about the struggles your family faces everyday, and how I can support and encourage you through those challenges. By completing this multiple choice questionnaire you will help me discover the best ways to serve YOU.

Feel free to answer as many or as few questions as you’d like. There are also spaces for you to leave comments if you wish to do so. The survey is also completely anonymous.

THANK YOU in advance for helping me to help you. As always if you’d like to speak with me directly, you may email me at samantha@livingwithrealjoy.com.

Click HERE to begin your survey.

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