My Word of the Year – TRUST



This week I wanted to share one of the first Facebook LIVES I created in my group, Choosing JOY. This was back in January 2017, where I was talking about my “Word of the Year”.


Ugh, I do not like talking about trust. It’s hard, it’s not easy and it takes a conscious effort on our part.

Thankfully, today I’m not talking about trusting a person. I am talking about trusting God, especially when life does not go as planned.

Click on the image below to watch. The video is less than 10 minutes and is a fantastic reminder of why we should only trust in the One who is completely worthy.


Word of the Year - TRUST


My Word of the Year – TRUST

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5 Common Lies Women Tell Themselves – No One Understands Me

5 Common Lies Women Tell Themselves - No One Understands Me


No one understands me.

What a great lie we tell ourselves often. The intention of this lie is to make you feel entirely alone. When you feel alone, you are in a very vulnerable place. Let’s get you out of that vulnerable place into a safe, encouraging space where you will always have hope.

When you say or think that no one understands you, ask yourself if this statement is true. Is there really no one on this whole planet who understands what you are going through? The answer is NO. There is always someone who has either experienced the same situation you’re going through or at least, has experienced the same feelings and emotions.

And remember, even when it seems like no one understands, there is always One who does. He suffered many, many things. Rejection, persecution, abandonment, betrayal. He was innocent yet suffered at the hands of those who hated Him. He knew what it was like to feel depression, anxiety, and fear. Jesus was 100% human and also 100% God. He did, and still does today, completely understand your feelings and emotions, and can show you the truth that you are NEVER alone.

So how do you combat this lie? Find someone who can understand your situation. There’s always someone who can help. Ask them if you can talk with them. Pick their brain and find out how they have handled this situation. Preferably find someone who has used their circumstance to uplift and encourage their own lives and the lives of others.

Instead of telling yourself “No one understands me” find someone you can talk to, who understands your situation. Better yet, lean on and trust in a God who is LOVE, TRUTH and has the POWER you need to know you will never be alone.

What’s one step today you can take to know and believe that you are not alone?



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5 Common Lies Women Tell Themselves - No One Understands Me


5 Common Lies Women Tell Themselves – I Will Never Be Happy

5 Common Lies Women Tell Themselves - I Will Never Be Happy


I have to be honest, this lie is a tough one to fight. Especially if you’re struggling with depression or anxiety because often you feel you will never be happy again.

The Difference Between Happiness & Joy

I remember when I first went to counseling, learning the difference between happiness and joy.

Happiness is a feeling. We feel happy when we eat our favorite dessert (or at least I do). We feel happy when we’re on vacation, when our children are not fighting with us or each other, or when they sleep through the night. Happiness is based on how we are feeling “in the moment”.

Joy is a belief. It is a lifestyle and is not dependant on our outward circumstances.

What is Joy?

Kay Warren describes Joy in her book “Choosing Joy: Because Happiness Isn’t Enough,” as the “settled assurance that God is in control of all the details of my life, the quiet confidence that ultimately everything is going to be alright, and the determined choice to praise God in every situation.”

Joy is knowing, no matter what happens, that you will be OK. Through illness, family discord, loss of employment, or unexpected chaos, your life is in the hands of a Father who loves you.

Rather than focusing on how you will “never be happy”, focus on what gives you true joy. Your children, your spouse, your relationship with God.

Turn Happiness into Joy

I would love for you to share with us, how you would change “I will never be happy” into “I can have joy because . . . .” Leave a comment below, it may just help someone else. 🙂


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5 Common Lies Women Tell Themselves - I Will Never Be Happy



Recognize Your Thoughts For What They Truly Are: Convicting or Condemning

For years, I listened to so many condemning thoughts in my head. And 99% of these thoughts were not from outside sources, they were from me.

After years of perfecting the practice of saying and believing the lies I was telling myself, it became extremely difficult to distinguish between what was a skewed version of the truth and what honest thoughts I should be listening to.

There are 3 simple steps you can take each and every day, to finally recognize your thoughts for what they are: convicting or condemning.

There is one basic truth you need to know before beginning this exercise:

Beliefs come from your Feelings. Feelings come from your Thoughts.

It is vitally important what thoughts you allow into your mind. The good news is, YOU have control over what thoughts you listen to. One of the foundational truths I learned through counselling is that I am responsible for my thoughts. I say “Yes” or “No” to each and every thought I allow into my mind.

Not believing this truth, makes it too easy to give up and believe that you cannot change your thinking. The enemy wants you to believe this. The more you believe this, the easier it is to convince yourself that you have no control over your thoughts and feelings and that you should simply give in to the will of these thoughts and feelings.

How do you best determine if your thoughts are condemning or convicting?

STEP #1: Recognize the Emotion

Anytime you are dealing with thoughts and feelings, you HAVE to deal with the emotion first. Why is that? By their very nature, emotions can be fickle, unpredictable, and irrational. This in no way makes them bad. God gave us emotions, so we can understand and express our feelings, empathize with other people, and experience life to the fullest.

If we are going to recognize thoughts for what they are – condemning or convicting – we need to deal with and get rid of any irrational emotion first.

Step #2: Know the Difference Between Conviction & Condemnation

First, you have to know what conviction and condemnation are:

Conviction is Truth that comes from God. God’s Truth is always edifying. He will never motivate you through criticism, belittlement or guilt.

I love how this article explains what conviction from God truly is:

When the Holy Spirit corrects or convicts us, I like to describe it as the “get in–get out” theory. He is going to correct and discipline us and show us what we did wrong. He is going to get in and get out. He is not going to badger us or nag at us about the same thing. He is going to show us the mistake, lay it upon our heart to repent and ask for forgiveness and then He is going to expect us to move on. He will keep convicting us until we do something about it.

Condemnation is anything that does not edify or lift you up. John 10:10 describes precisely what condemnation is –  anything the enemy uses to steal from you (joy, peace, hope, for example) and completely destroy you.

Step #3: Choose What You Will Do With Your Thoughts

This step, although simple, is not always easy. Often we want to hang onto certain thoughts. Especially those that we feel justified in believing, have always believed that particular thought system is the truth, or quite frankly, we feel we deserve to believe.

If you’re having a tough time taking action on this step, go back to Step #2. 

Once you’ve decided it’s time to take action, the next steps are very simple.

If the thought is convicting, then you need to act on it.

If the thought is condemning, then you need to disregard it and completely reject it. Don’t allow that condemning thought to go any further, otherwise, it will begin to influence your feelings and eventually your beliefs.

Trust me when I say I have way too much experience in this area.

Tell me, have you gone through this process before? Do you practice these principles in order to determine if your thoughts are convicting or condemning?


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