10 Free Tools to Help Calm Your Angry or Anxious Child

10 Free Tools to Help Calm Your Angry or Anxious Child

 

Last week in my group, Choosing JOY, I held a Facebook LIVE where I talked about how to handle anxiety in your home. (To view this video, click the link here.) I mentioned in that video that I would share the top tools we use in our home to deal with anxiety and anger. When you have a child who can explode at any minute, it’s a huge help to have a list of tools at your disposal.

Pray with Your Child

This is not only helpful for your child but for you as a parent as well. 🙂

Take a Bubble Bath 

This works wonders for our middle child.

Pet a Dog or Hold a Cat

By far this method works the best for our son with ADHD and Autism. It’s a great distraction for him, and our 65-pound black lab is A-MAZING with our kids.

Rip Up Paper

This is another great tool for my son.

Punch a Pillow or a Bed

Our oldest child who is now a teenager uses this method when she’s angry or upset. She’s our neurotypical child who can get easily frustrated with her special needs siblings.

Weighted Blankets & Pillows

Although you can purchase these, and they can be expensive, what we do in our home is use what we have. My husband will take a few heavy blankets and all of the pillows on our couch and pile them up on top of our son. He loves this, especially while he’s playing on the iPad.

Call a Friend

Our middle child does this when she’s anxious. Not necessarily to talk about the issue that’s causing anxiety but just to chat with a friend.

These last three methods we’ve used with success in our home as well. These are probably more for younger children than older ones.

Calm Down Bin

Calm Down Yoga

Belly Breathing

For a comprehensive list of methods and tools to use in your own home, download the free guide, “51 Ways to Calm Down Your Angry or Anxious Child” by clicking on the image below.

 

51 Ways to Calm an Anxious or Angry Child

 

 

 

10 Free Tools to Help Calm Your Angry or Anxious Child

 

 

A Prayer of Hope When Your Child Struggles with Anxiety

 

By Samantha McDonald, Living With Real Joy

Have you ever felt so overwhelmed that you’re not sure if you want to scream and cry and throw a tantrum, or if you want to get in bed, pull the blankets over your head, and hide there for as long as possible?

When someone in your home struggles with an illness, physical or mental, it affects the entire house. Any of you reading this right now who have chronic illness in your home know exactly what I’m talking about. As a parent, trying to find the balance between disciplining disobedience and offering grace is very difficult, especially when you have a child with a mental or emotional condition.

The hardest part of all of this is to see how it affects our other children. We’ve spoken a lot about grace and forgiveness in our home, but it’s difficult for adults to understand this at times, let alone a child or a teenager.

I would like to share one particular experience with you that has given me hope.

One evening our middle was having a heck of a time with her anxieties. I’m talking a major panic attack where I thought she was going to pass out from hyperventilating. After trying to talk with her and calm her down I said,

By Samantha McDonald, Living With Real Joy“You know what? Let’s pray. These things you’re saying are lies from Satan, and God does not believe these at all. He doesn’t want you to feel like this so let’s ask Him for help.”

I prayed and she calmed down for the rest of the evening.

I believe God answered our prayers that night. It’s amazing what happens when we simply ask Him for help. This was only something He could have done. I had no way of breaking through the disorder and confusion that she was listening to inside of her head.

This week, when you’re having a tough time, stop and pray. And don’t wait all day long like I did. Pray right there wherever you are. Even if God does not answer your prayer the way you’d like, being in His presence is enough to calm your spirit and give you peace when all else around you is chaos.

Trust me, I know.  🙂

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Daily Routines for Your ADHD Family

Daily Routines for your ADHD FamilyLast week I talked about how to create a back to school routine for your family.

Now this just doesn’t apply to your kids. This applies to you as well.

My husband has told me time and time again that I do my best work, have the best attitude, and become overwhelmed a lot less often when I make a routine for myself and stick to it.

I’m very good at creating routines and schedules. Oh I could spend all day crafting charts, finding cute images to correlate with each task, and displaying them so neatly on my refrigerator. My problem comes with the follow-through. My personality despises doing anything wrong or pretty much “not perfect” in my eyes. I freeze when I can’t or don’t know how to start something just the right way.  Read More

4 Steps to Creating a Back to School Routine

It’s that time of year again. School supplies, new clothes, new backpacks, sports tryouts, after-school clubs, and everything else that comes with the beginning of a new school year. It’s also an opportunity to begin a brand new routine that will help your family have a well-prepared and chaotic free (as much as possible) school year.

Routines and schedules are just one tool that can help make this happen. The following steps are what we use in our home to help make the days as stress-free as we can.

Back to School Routine

Step #1 – Divide the day into 2 categories: Morning & Evening

Step #2 – Make a list of everything that needs to get done during a school day, from the moment the children wake up, until they go to bed. Place each task under one category. Some tasks may have more than 1 category, for example ‘brush teeth’ may fall under both morning and evening.

Our list looks like this:  Read More