Last week I talked about how to create a back to school routine for your family.
Now this just doesn’t apply to your kids. This applies to you as well.
My husband has told me time and time again that I do my best work, have the best attitude, and become overwhelmed a lot less often when I make a routine for myself and stick to it.
I’m very good at creating routines and schedules. Oh I could spend all day crafting charts, finding cute images to correlate with each task, and displaying them so neatly on my refrigerator. My problem comes with the follow-through. My personality despises doing anything wrong or pretty much “not perfect” in my eyes. I freeze when I can’t or don’t know how to start something just the right way.
I need to remind myself constantly that these charts and schedules I create are for our family to use. They are of no good to anyone if they don’t accomplish the goal, which is to have a calm, peaceful, smoothly running household (as much as humanly possible).
These schedules are also designed to be flexible. Just because it says dinner is at 6:00 pm does not mean it’s always going to be at 6:00. Our schedule is a guideline for us to know if we’re getting on or off track with our daily duties.
I also customize our schedules and routines to help our 2 ADHD/ASD kiddos. Everything I’ve read stresses the importance of having a consistent routine and a visual schedule. Honestly, these tips work for any child. They thrive off of knowing what to expect. This provides security for them.
For children with special needs, such as ADHD or Autism, consistency and visual cues help tremendously with learning how to navigate and live in this often confusing and frustrating world.
These are just a few of the tools we use in our home to keep us all as sane as possible. Obviously there are days when things just don’t go right. And there are days when no matter how much you try to stick to the schedule it’s just not going to happen.
What I try to learn and teach my kids, during times like these, is that we still have a choice over how we react to what’s happening in the moment. We forget to pack our homework, or our lunch, or I forget my phone (have mercy if that ever happens!!!), or my work shoes, life is not over. No it’s not going to run exactly as planned but that’s OK. The most important things we have covered. God is in control, He is always with us and He loves us more than we can imagine.
In this week’s newsletter I’ll be sharing in more detail the specific schedule and routine I use as the “Family Manager” as my husband likes to call me. To sign up for the weekly newsletter (it’s free and also includes a free pdf “51 Ways to Calm an Anxious Child) click here.
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